So, recently, Margaret Cho gave an interview. Openly bisexual, she ties her sexual orientation with being polyamorous. You can read that here.
Most people (I hope!) can get that being bi does NOT mean you have sex with anyone and everyone. And, I think almost as many people know that being bi doesn't mean you have to have sex with both men and women to be satisfied.
But, it seems that the myth is still out there. That pisses me off.
Maybe more things like this should change to include relationship orientation.
As a bisexual and someone enjoying monoamory, I call bullshit on Margaret Cho's assertion. It works for her, okay. But, being bi isn't about how many people you sleep with or even who you choose to sleep with. It's about attraction. Some bi people act on more attractions than others. Doesn't change or increase their "bi-ness," in my opinion. By the same token, not acting on attractions or not being poly doesn't decrease or erase the bisexual part of my identity.
Defining bisexuality as needing poly relationships can be just as faulty as claiming we're all supposed to be mono.
Thursday, August 22, 2013
Friday, August 9, 2013
Privacy
So, the other day, Wowzer and I were discussing sexual privacy. The idea of sex in a public place is a hot one. But, isn't part of what makes it so hot the fact that it's forbidden? The thrill of getting caught?
If that's the case, then, my question becomes why it's forbidden. Why is privacy with sex important? And, why, at the same time that privacy matters, is group sex also so hot?
It's a sexy conundrum.
It's pretty clear that at least part of the taboo is cultural. In our own past, families often shared one bedroom. Did the parents ask the kids to hum loudly to themselves? Or did they just trust that the kids could absorb and handle the fact that their parents had sex?
What about so-called primitive cultures? I'm pretty sure they don't kick the kids out of their huts to have sex.
Where did this idea that sex is reserved for the private sphere come from? And, why, in a world of oversharing and reduced personal privacy, is it still taboo?
If that's the case, then, my question becomes why it's forbidden. Why is privacy with sex important? And, why, at the same time that privacy matters, is group sex also so hot?
It's a sexy conundrum.
It's pretty clear that at least part of the taboo is cultural. In our own past, families often shared one bedroom. Did the parents ask the kids to hum loudly to themselves? Or did they just trust that the kids could absorb and handle the fact that their parents had sex?
What about so-called primitive cultures? I'm pretty sure they don't kick the kids out of their huts to have sex.
Where did this idea that sex is reserved for the private sphere come from? And, why, in a world of oversharing and reduced personal privacy, is it still taboo?
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